How do I craft pitches/DMs that get listened to and replied to, and follow up without being annoying?

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CASE STUDY - “NIGHTTAPE”&#010;  • Lo-fi producer NightTape cold-messaged 30 genre curators using: [personal greeting] + hook (why them) + proof (1-line achievement) + private link + single ask.&#010;  • Results: reply rate 12% -> 43%, placements 1 -> 7, new followers 120 -> 2,100.&#010;  • Follow-up: one message at +5 days with a 15 sec visualizer and a polite “might fit your chill-beats slot” reminder. No third email.&#010;&#010;WHY THIS QUESTION MATTERS&#010;  • Curators, bloggers, and influencers skim hundreds of messages weekly.&#010;  • Standing out means respecting time, proving relevance in seconds, and making the next step effortless.&#010;  • Mastering this craft turns a cold inbox into a repeatable relationship channel.&#010;&#010;UNDERSTAND GATEKEEPER PSYCHOLOGY&#010;Pain point -> Your counter-move&#010;  • Inbox overload -> open with a personalized first line and name their playlist or article.&#010;  • Risk of bad fit -> one-sentence genre match and a similar-artist reference.&#010;  • Limited time -> keep body under 120 words, clear CTA up front.&#010;  • Need social proof -> one credible stat: press quote, stream milestone, or co-sign.&#010;&#010;ANATOMY OF A HIGH-RESPONSE PITCH OR DM&#010;Subject: For your “Sunday Chill” playlist&#010;Hey Alex,&#010;Loved the mellow horn section you added in last week’s update.&#010;I’m NightTape, Tel-Aviv lo-fi producer (350k streams on “Coffee Break”).&#010;New single “Moon Foam” (unreleased, private link below) blends neo-soul guitars with rain foley, fits your 60-75 BPM sunset block.&#010;▶️ Private Stream (unlisted)&#010;If it vibes, would love to join your next drop.&#010;Thanks for spinning quality chill beats!&#010;– N.&#010;&#010;KEY ELEMENTS&#010;  • Micro-hook in the subject or first line (playlist name or recent post).&#010;  • One credible proof (stat or co-sign).&#010;  • Single private link (no attachments).&#010;  • One clear ask: add, feature, or feedback.&#010;  • Friendly exit: gratitude, no pressure.&#010;&#010;FOLLOW-UP FRAMEWORK - NON ANNOYING&#010;  • Day 0: initial pitch, private stream + tailored hook.&#010;  • Day +5: follow-up 1, new asset (visualizer or lyric snippet) + quick reminder.&#010;  • Day +12: follow-up 2, optional, share early blog coverage or first-week stats.&#010;  • Stop: no reply -> archive for next release, respect their space.&#010;&#010;RULES&#010;  • Keep follow-ups 60 words or less.&#010;  • Open with appreciation: “Just checking you caught my last note, no worries if swamped.”&#010;  • Add something new each time, never just “bumping”.&#010;&#010;COMMON MISTAKES TO AVOID&#010;  • Mass-mailing without personalization -> spam flags.&#010;  • Multiple links and large attachments -> slow load and suspicion.&#010;  • Vague requests -> give one actionable ask.&#010;  • Hourly nudges or guilt-tripping -> burns bridges.&#010;  • Blind CC of other curators -> disrespectful, always 1-to-1.&#010;&#010;KEY TAKEAWAYS&#010;  • Research first, show you actually follow their work.&#010;  • 120 word ceiling signals professionalism.&#010;  • One strong proof beats a long bio.&#010;  • Follow up twice max, add fresh value, then back off.&#010;  • Log everything (send dates, opens, replies) and iterate each cycle.